Did your first date fail? Do you really know what went wrong? Well if your answer to the last question is no, don’t worry you are not alone. Many first dates fail and this is the topic this article is all about. Here are some reasons why many first dates fail.
Were you late for the date. Being late sets an annoying tone for the night and generally may cause some negative tension which may impact the rest of the night’s activities. Always stick to the planned meeting time and if for any reason you will be late, call and apologize and adjust the meeting time to accommodate your lateness. An advanced warning makes it easier for your partner to understand.
Distractions during the actual date
Was you attention focused on your partner?. Turn your cell phone to vibrate so at least you know when an important call comes in. These days many people are glued to their phones, receiving and making calls and sending text. This could be annoying to your party if you commit too much energy and time to your phone instead of your date. It could cause a lot of uneasiness on your first date if this habit continues during the course of your night’s outing. This could possibly make your date not to go out again with you.
Avoid Negatives and stress Positives
Communication and engaging your date is very important part of your first date’s experience. Are you emphasizing negatives? What types of conversations did you have with your date? Are you being critical and argumentative in any way? These are contributory factors to some of the failed first dating encounters. Your conversations must project positive feelings on your partner. Be complimentary and bring out the laughs and smiles through occasional use of humor and jokes. This will more likely enlighten and lift the feelings of your dating partner during the course of the night.
Stay Away from stories about your past relationship
Avoid at all cost discussing experiences withyour previous relationship. It could be boring and not exactly what your partner wants to hear. Some people tend to use and dwell on their previous relationships and what went wrong. They often blame the other party in the relationship but your partner may know and understand that it usually takes two to tangle and that failed relationships usually result from activities of both parties in the relationship. So your best option is to stay away from discussing them.
You made no efforts to connect emotionally
Many new dates fail because of lack of interest to connect emotionally with your partner. Although such connections may take time to build, but it is a gradual process which usually should start from day one. Your partner could very easily sense your feelings towards them. The good old saying is that action speaks louder than words. Did you show any serious interest in your partner’s life experiences? If your partner perceives you have no interest in their life experiences, it is likely they may not want to continue dating you.